Generally speaking, “separation anxiety” is often used to talk about infants and young children, because of the separation from their relatives caused by anxiety, anxiety, or unpleasant emotional reaction, also known as separation anxiety. In fact, adults can feel this way too, but few people notice.
Psychologists say that separation anxiety originates from a traumatic emotional experience caused by some stagnation in the process of separation and individuation in childhood. It will have different degrees of influence on a person’s growth, especially in the subsequent real life, when this early traumatic emotional experience is aroused or awakened by some specific events, the feelings of the parties will be deeper. It could be said that we struggle with separation all our lives. Separation anxiety is mainly reflected in close relationships, such as parent-child relationship, marriage or emotional relationship, separation or death of relatives, etc.
Do adults have separation anxiety? Four steps to coping
When May is separated from her husband, whom she cares about the most, she will also feel this kind of anxiety and even have various emotional troubles. She is often unwilling to separate from each other, even if it is a short, necessary separation is not willing to, always hope to stick together with each other, in love to take personal policy. In fact, such entanglement and close policy are signs of fear of separation, and can be destructive to relationships. Because of a long time, there may be the other side can not understand and endure your anxiety reaction, let him feel that there is no space and freedom for each other, so that the marriage suffocated, the relationship between the two lost vitality, so that the other side and even the two sides of the intimate relationship because of oxygen and death.
Of course, it’s not bad to have separation anxiety in close relationships. Psychological research shows that people who miss their partner when they are separated are more invested in the relationship, work harder to protect it and avoid damaging behaviors like cheating. So, this “dependence” and “missing” may prompt you to work hard on your relationship, but do it in moderation.
So, if adults have separation anxiety, how to deal with it? First, you need to recognize that separation anxiety is a normal emotional response that arises from a normal need for attachment, and that it is because of separation anxiety that we form emotional bonds with our loved ones, and that need should be respected. If you notice that separation anxiety is evident, you can consciously engage in group exercises that boost your confidence and your sense of security.